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Dating after Divorce is so Trippy
I got divorced during the pandemic and then for the most part took a break from dating, but I spent a lot of time thinking about what went wrong and how to do better in the future.
I thought I had mentally prepared for everything, but dating again still sort of feels like I’ve been thrown into the deep end despite not being a very strong swimmer.
In fact I once had to be saved by a life guard, that’s how bad a swimmer I was.
Reading about swimming is not the same as actually doing it.
Now I’m dating someone and it’s so far actually going well, which is throwing me off. I had spent so much time preparing to be in another bad relationship and knowing what to do and when to leave. I hadn’t thought about what to do when it’s going well. Kind of sad really.
Then I wig myself out because it doesn’t feel the same as it did before. But with my ex wife things seemed really exciting and good for a couple months and then things started going downhill. Things continued getting worse for years. I don’t want to do that again, so it’s good that it doesn’t feel like it did before.
But I get scared because would I even recognize if things are good vs. if they’re just differently bad?
