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Instead of Judging Parents we should Offer Support
People can be deemed “bad parents” for so many reasons, but I believe most if not all of these issues are caused by lack of support.
Screen time. Helpful for getting a small break or getting something done. Not necessary if there’s someone else available to supervise and play. (I wonder if Blippi will be judged for letting his kid watch videos of him.)
Fast food or processed meals. Ideally every meal would be a delightfully balanced meal with fruits and vegetables. But that takes time to prepare. And money. And depending on the kid they might not even eat it. Then you’re alone with a hungry kid who’s looking for attention because you’ve been dealing with cooking instead of playing with them.
Yelling. Obviously not good and I think most parents recognize that and aim not to. It’s way easier to avoid if you get breaks.
Bedsharing or any sleeping arrangement that varies from the “ideal.” If there’s only one person waking up in the middle of the night, they have to get sleep somehow.
I’m a single mom and recognize I’m quite lucky as far as single moms go. I have family nearby that can help in a pinch. I have friends who are still into hanging out, even with my kids tagging along. I can afford occasional babysitters and takeout. But day to day I’m alone and…
