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The Way Divorcing Women Talk
I am also a divorced women, though I don’t think I picked up the “accent.” I’m a member of some online groups for women going through divorce, or about to be going through divorce, and many of the posts have the same flavor.
A lot of the women in those groups are heterosexual and I am not, so that may have helped me avoid picking up the accent. Or maybe I did have the accent, but it’s been long enough now that I’ve lost it.
There is a certain style I’ve noticed when women are in the midst of getting divorced. Certain phrases that get used a lot.
“He’s a good guy, but…”
This is then followed by a string of awful things. It’s then concluded with something like, “but he’s so good at playing with the kids.”
Or “He works hard at his job.”
If he was truly a good guy you wouldn’t have a gigantic list of awful things.
And playing with the kids is the fun part. If he was a good guy he’d do more of the not fun child related tasks.
“He tries his best.” “How can he not notice the messes?!”
Said by someone who has not let the idea of weaponized incompetence sink in yet.
In reality he is doing the least he thinks he can get away with doing. He sees the messes and doesn’t want to…
